Thursday, September 24, 2009

"I Do"


Wasn't this once upon a time, a commitment that people made with lifelong intentions? And surely it wasn't that they expected a perfect lifelong marriage. They knew troubles were bound to be waiting around the bin. But marriage is a solemn vow. It's a promise we make before God, and before all the most important people in our lives. It's a promise so sacred that hundreds, sometimes thousands, of dollars are poured into making the day incredibly special and memorable.

Before my husband and I got married in August 2008, we had already discussed many many times how important the vows we would say were to us. We truly took on the "Divorce is NOT an option" attitude. We talked about the pain divorce brings and how we both felt it was taking the easy way out when things get rough. God is at the center of our marriage. We made a sacred promise before him, to have and to hold one another until the day that God calls us home to be with him. We can think of no circumstance under which a divorce would be justified through God's eyes. Okay, maybe "no circumstances" is too strong. Sure, I can imagine a few situations under which it might have to become an option. In my mind, God wouldn't want one to remain in a marriage with serious abuse (rather to a spouse or to our child/ren). And God does not accept murder, so I suppose if one of us became a murderer we may have to rethink it all.

But the truth is, most marriages ending in divorce are not ending over serious things like that. It is said that most marriages end in difficulties over finances. Debt, disagreements about debt... that's not a reason to divorce. It's a reason to drop to your knees and seek God's guidance. It's a reason to seek financial help. It's a reason to seek counseling, so you can work through the issues. Divorce will not help finances. It will worsen them.

All around me people are separating and getting divorced. Children are paying the price for their parents not-so-wise decisions. And I just can't help but wonder, what were these people thinking when they said "I do"?

I thank God every day for my husband. I pray all the time to become a better wife. I struggle hourly to be the wife I know I can be... the wife that bites her tongue and thinks before she screams speaks. It's not always easy, but I made a vow and I have no intentions to break a promise I made before God, my husband and all the important people in our lives. God never said life would be easy. He just said it would go on. And he is there always waiting to carry me through the times I feel I just can't go on.

Friday, September 18, 2009

Letters of Intent

I am participating in Foursons new Friday tradition of "Letters of Intent". Such a fun idea. What's better than a fun way to vent? :-) ~ Happy Friday!

Grab My Button!

Dear Sony Laptop:

You are my best friend. I depend on you for daily living. A day without you is hard to survive. You hold my life: my photos, my school work, my emails, my facebook/myspace/twitter/blogspot (which are my very connection to so much of the world). Without you, I would not know what the girl I graduated with years ago but have not spoken to, is doing right this moment, Without you, I would not know that I forgot yesterday was Thankful Thursday. Without you, I could not have just completed all my school work for this week in my online class.

My dependency upon you means I have a huge amount of thankfulness for you and all you do for me. This appreciation means nothing to you. You repay me by shutting off at the very moment I have 5 screens up as I multitask my way through another day. When you do start back up, you take your time. You go slower than the snail out on my front porch. You find it humorous to prevent sounds from working right as a stumble upon my exercises for class that require hearing audio pieces to answer questions.

You take advantage of my love. You are so certain I would never give you up, that you test me daily.

Rest assured treasured friend, in the near future I will have the financial ability to replace you. I will desert you for a newer, younger, fancier model. You will be shut off for good! And then my friend, you will see how it feels to be let down.


P.s. I still appreciate that you continued to work after the day I tragically dropped you, leading to this life of duct tape. However, you could at least try to not break through the duct tape as soon as I rewrap you with fresh bandages.

Friday, September 11, 2009

Remembering 9/11/01 -- God Bless America

With a sad heart, I stop today to look back to that tragic day and recall all the lives that were lost.

I pray strength, courage, peace and comfort for those who lost loved ones on 9/11 and for those who lost loved ones on the days to follow by stepping in to search for people in the mess left behind and those brave enough that have stepped out into war for us. God bless each and every one of these people! May we never ever forget.